Chastity - Devices are for whimps!

This post on chastity has been inspired by my good Twitter gurlfriend @dicklet who serves the awesome @MistressRouge but has yet to be put in chastity.

It has to be said that it is much easier writing about this subject on a day Mistress Scarlett Thorne has allowed me three releases!

In her tweet to me @dicklet said: "i've never tried #chastity (could not wear a device at home). Mentally i would crumble too easily :( x"

Well, sadly (despite the title of this blog) i am in exactly the same position as @dicklet regarding devices. The trials of a double life as opposed to a full time lifestyle one meas we can't wander aroud 24/7 with a cage around our tranny clitoris (cock if you are a  male sub).

So the issue question really is how to do chastity properly without "mentally crumbling".

i speak with some pride on this matter in that i have genuinely cracked it. So while i have regularly begged and pleaded for a release, since i was put in chastity late last year for a misdemeanour i have not released without Mistress' permission since apart from during my short summer sabbatical.

That is not to say it has been easy. Even going a few days without a release if you're used to wanking or having sex most days (which most men are - at least wanking anyway) is extremely uncomfortable and a huge challenge.

i remember my first week of chastity well. i spent it in Morocco in the heat, the worst possible conditions, and basically had to sit in a cool swimming pool for long hours not to break chastity. i had to get up in the middle of the night to take cold showers and was literally biting my knuckles and climbing up the wall.

But despite the pain and discomfort - which i described in my earlier blog - i think it is only a question of adopting the right mental attitude to stay in chastity.

The main recommendation would be to treat your service to a Mistress like a religion. Think of monks and how (in theory) they managed to overcome their urges. After all, arguably, if you serve and worship a Mistress or male Dom properly you can have no other God or Goddess.

The top tip is to embrace fear. Monks feared the ravages of Hell, but in the case of a sub think of the Hell awaiting you if you anger and disappoint your Mistress by disobeying her - and breaking chastity is reasonably serious in the scale of disobeying.

For @dicklet this should not be difficult, @MistressRouge is truly terrifying when She's in a good mood. For me fear of the consequences of failing Scarlett Thorne got me through the first weeks of chastity.

A Mistress - particularly one who has worked in other parts of the sex industry - will know if you are breaking chastity from the swelling of your balls, although the science is not exact because the body does have involuntary releases.

But there is a subtler perhaps more important attitude. If you are serving a Mistress for its own sake as opposed to just getting your rocks off then chastity - as it was in organised religion - is the ultimate sign of devotion.

i know different subs take different attitudes to this and some see it as an endurance test, but for me the secret of chastity is not how often you release it is simply that your clitoris/ penis is owned by Mistress. This means you can release only when She commands it (on the odd occasion you may not want another release especially when Mistress has demanded five or six in a day). In that sense if you break chastity you are denying Mistress' ownership over you and you are not only cheating Her but also yourself and breaking the essential bond that should exist in a proper consnensual Domme/sub relationship.

So my reason for not breaking chastity - and the reason i begged and pleaded to be put back into it after the summer - has changed from one of fear to one of devotion. From that i have found the mental strength (because essentially that is what is required) to not break chastity and, despite the pain and discomfort, i never will do again. Of course, the problem with making these statements is that Mistress may test me over a very long period which really would be a challenge of my devotion.

For those who are really strong and can use their minds to control their physical functions it is - according to Mistress Scarlett Thorne - possible to switch off one's own sex drive. Although my sex drive switches off of its own accord on odd occasions i must admit i have not reached this particular point on the chastity path where i can do it at will. Somehow though it again feels like cheating just in a differet way ad i'd miss the pain as a reminder of Mistress' ownership over me.

So returning to the title of this post, devices are good and actualy a wonderful symbol of a slave's devotion in handing over the key. Really i'd love to wear one, but i think that the much greater sign of devotion and trust is to maintain chastity without a device, it requires a lot of mental strength but if you succeed it binds you much closer to Your Mistress. In some ways devices are a cop out because you have safeguarded yourself against weak mindedness and made sure it is no longer your choice.

Having said that in a future blog i will touch on some of the chastity devices out there, some of which such as the ones involving sounds and electrics bring tears to the eyes ad certainly are not for whimps or at least people who aren't tied down first.
Right off for another release ;)

If you need any help or advice as a tranny or a sub email me on trannyagony@live.co.uk or weet me on @DaniTallulah.

Surviving Chastity

i've had a question from one of my fellow members of Scarlett Thorne's TrannyArmyofDoom about chastity. @FSlutMST (as you may know him on twitter) asks: "Why does Mistress impose chastity and what's the best way to deal with the frustration?"

FS has only just been put properly into chastity, so he is experiencing the early shock of what that actually means and the side effects which hit you remarkably quickly. These can be flashing pains, dizziness, an inability to concentrate or think straight and powerful urges in the groin.

But for me chastity is perhaps the greatest enigma of the whole Mistress/ slave relationship. It is at once the most frustrating and painful act of control for which a slave is desperate for a release, yet at the same time it is perhaps the most perfect symbol of a Mistress's control and ownership.

I was first put into chastity as a punishment (for injudicious tweeting), then kept in it as part of my service and spent a lot of time trying to think of ways to persuade Scarlett Thorne to allow me to have a release. Yet when i was given a chastity holiday over the summer i actually begged Mistress to put me back into it because i so badly missed the constant reminder of Her power over me which it provides.

So I'll split the questions into two.

1. Why does Mistress impose chastity?

The answer to the first part of FS's question is simple. While there is a large element of suffering and punishment that chastity inflicts on a slave, these are merely bonuses to the the primary reason a Mistress imposing it which is for control. There are few greater ways for a Domme to demonstrate Her power over somebody than being able to say if and when a slave can have any meaningful sexual satisfaction.

Scarlett Thorne often refers to chastity as "control" which pretty much sums it up. In this sense i don't think there is much difference between serving a Mistress than taking  the old monastical religious vows. The church too was trying to impose control and focus the individual's relationship and desires on being part of it. A Mistress is looking for devotion from Her slave in a very similar way and let's face it whilst it's more deviant what a sub is practising is essentially worship.

Mistress Thorne also once said to me that chastity focussed my mind in the way She wanted it to be focussed. This is true, in the sense that, in my case at least, when i'm sexually frustrated i'm permanantly sexually charged and it is hard not to think about performing tranny sexual acts and of serving Mistress herself.

2. How do you deal with the frustration?

Dealing with the frustration is a much more difficult question to answer and actually if i had a proper solution it would negate the reason for being put into chastity in the first place. But for the benefit of FS and other here are various things i've tried or been told.

a. cold showers or swimming pools.

That's how i get through my first week of chastity in Morrocco. There's nothing like a hot climate to make chastity really uncomfortable and i spent much of that holiday punching the wall and biting my nails in sheer frustration. i was saved by the hotel swimming pool and 2am showers. Unfortunately this is not an option in normal daily working life.

b. alcohol

There is nothing liking getting drunk to numb the pain and discomfort. This is a particularly good option if you like a drink. The main drawback is the liver failure that will inevitably follow the amount of alcohol needed to keep the chastity pains away. However, another unforeseen problem is that for some bizarre medical reason chastity pains are ten times worse when you have a hangover. Somebody really should do medical research into why this happens, it seems to be desperately unfair of nature.

c. devices

The people who take chastity seriously such as my Twitter friend @TonyEssentia are properly caged. For reasons of living a double life this option is impossible for me but from what i understand it helps a lot in the sense that any choice in the matter is taken away from the individual concerned. i always suspect this approach has a slightly more macho endurance test about it than actually demonstrating a Domme's control.

d. cheat

For those of us who have to be in chastity on a trust basis because we can't go around in cages the temptation to just have a sneaky release can be enormous. My view on this is that as a slave you are just cheating yourself out of the benefits of being under control and probably aren't taking the whole thing seriously enough. There is also the not insignificant point that most experienced Mistresses will know if you've cheated.

e. distraction

The simplest method is to just try and concentrate on asomething else and not think about chastity or anything that might make you aroused. Focus on work or whatever. Obviously this is far easier said than done.

f. plead, beg, do whatever it takes to get permission for a release from Mistress

While this entirely depends on the whims of somebody who by nature is entirely unpredictable, it is perhaps your best hope for relief. It is the point of the whole exercise anyway in allowing a Mistress to demonstrate Her power and ownership. So basically if you find ways to please Her or new ways to make Her inclined to allow you a release you might be able to get one within a reasonalbe period of time.

In my case Scarlett Thorne likes creative release pictures, so i've tried to be imaginative and this apparently has made Her more inclined to being merciful.

Another way is to serve Mistress in a session, but this too is not a guaranteed way of getting a release even if you perform well.

Remember, if you want advice e-mail me at trannyagony@live.co.uk or tweet me on @DaniTallulah